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Pinoy Ethics When Visiting A Home

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How to make a home visit enjoyable for both the visitor and host


Filipinos love the idea of visiting friends at home. They doubly love the idea of being visited. Whether you are the visitor or host, there are important tips to remember to make a visit a rewarding experience.




Notify your host if you want to visit. Do not make a sudden appearance except in really unavoidable circumstances, such as when no mode of communications are possible to inform of the visitor’s arrival. But under normal circumstances, make sure the person you are visiting is informed ahead at least by a day or two. This gives the person enough time to prepare.


Arrive on Time. It can spoil a gathering when people arrive later than agreed. Despite the common notion that  “Filipino time” means being notoriously late, this is not a reason to believe that Filipinos generally enjoy being late. On the contrary, the majority of modern Pinoys stick to their schedules and dislike the idea of being late, especially when they meet with foreigners. Consequently, they generally expect foreigners to be on time. This is especially important if you are visiting for lunch or dinner due to the amount of food that is usually prepared and ready to be served.


Bring something to eat. Get-togethers at home in the Philippine context always means eating. Whether the host prepares food or not, it is always a good idea to bring along some sort of food item. Rice cakes, cakes or pastries, pizza, fruits, and take-home fast food are among the popular gifts to give. This makes one a more welcomed guest.


When guests bring along food, it is either for sharing or for the host to keep. When guests bring snack foods for instance, it is often for sharing with everyone, especially if there is more than enough for the host. But if the food is a small amount or obviously for the host alone, the latter ought to keep it for later. But Filipino tradition dictates that, nonetheless, the host should offer some to the guests, to which the guests would readily and politely turn it down.


Large quantities of food given to the host is automatically for sharing. If the guest provides a large portion of food, it is expected that they also provide drinks with it. This shows generosity. If the host decides not to share a generous portion of food that has been provided, this may be considered selfish and so if you are hosting, and are given a gift of food, remember to offer it around to everyone.  


These tips are generally applicable for all kinds of home visits such as visits to the sick, a visit from a man courting a woman, a visit from neighbors to a new member of the community, etc. The best thing to remember is:  if you are a guest, as a sign of courtesy, bring the gift of food for your host if possible. And if you are hosting, be sure to offer any gifts of food to all of your guests if there is a lot to share.



Author: CS Gaerlan






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